When parents separate or divorce, one of the most important steps they can take is creating a parenting plan. In Hawaiʻi, parenting plans are not just recommended—they’re often required by the family court in cases involving minor children.

More than just a legal formality, a well-structured parenting plan sets the foundation for clear communication, stable routines, and reduced conflict between co-parents. It puts the child’s well-being first, while also giving each parent clarity on their responsibilities and expectations.

If you’re going through a separation or custody case in Hawaiʻi, here’s what you need to know about parenting plans—and why they matter.

What Is a Parenting Plan?

A parenting plan is a written agreement that outlines how separated or divorced parents will care for and raise their child. It serves as a roadmap for co-parenting, helping both parties make shared decisions and navigate parenting after the relationship ends.

In Hawaiʻi, parenting plans are used in divorce, legal separation, and child custody cases. Courts strongly encourage parents to develop these plans together. If they can’t agree, the court will create a plan based on the child’s best interests.

Why Are Parenting Plans Important?

✅ They Protect Your Child’s Well-Being

A predictable and cooperative parenting arrangement helps children adjust more easily to family changes. It provides emotional security and maintains strong relationships with both parents.

✅ They Reduce Future Conflicts

When everything is clearly outlined—who picks up the child, when vacations are scheduled, how decisions are made—there’s less room for misunderstanding or dispute.

✅ They Provide Legal Clarity

Once approved by the court, a parenting plan becomes a legally enforceable order. This protects both parents and ensures that everyone adheres to the agreement.

What Should a Parenting Plan Include in Hawaiʻi?

Each family is unique, but a thorough parenting plan typically includes:

1. Physical Custody and Parenting Time

• A clear schedule of where the child lives on weekdays, weekends, holidays, school breaks, and vacations.
• Exchange times and locations
• Provisions for flexibility and communication about changes

2. Legal Custody (Decision-Making Authority)

• How major decisions will be made about education, healthcare, religion, and extracurricular activities
• Whether decisions are made jointly or by one parent in certain areas

3. Communication Protocols

• Guidelines for how parents will communicate with each other (text, phone, email)
• How the child can communicate with the other parent during visits

4. Travel and Relocation Terms

• Requirements for notifying the other parent about out-of-state or inter-island travel
• Rules around potential relocation and how it impacts the existing plan

5. Dispute Resolution Methods

• Steps to take when disagreements arise (e.g., mediation before returning to court)

6. Special Considerations

• Cultural or religious practices
• Health concerns or special needs
• Guidelines for introducing new partners or third-party caregivers

Tip: Be as specific as possible. Vague or overly flexible plans can lead to future disagreements.

Can a Parenting Plan Be Modified?

Yes. If circumstances change—such as a new work schedule, a move, or a change in the child’s needs—either parent can request a modification. The court will evaluate whether the proposed changes still serve the child’s best interests.

How the Court Evaluates Parenting Plans in Hawaiʻi

Family courts in Hawaiʻi prioritize the child’s health, safety, and emotional well-being. Judges consider:

• The relationship between the child and each parent
• Each parent’s ability to provide a stable environment
• History of domestic violence or substance abuse
• The child’s adjustment to home, school, and community
• The child’s wishes, depending on age and maturity

When both parents cooperate to create a plan that prioritizes their child, courts are more likely to approve and support it.

Need Help Creating a Parenting Plan in Hawaiʻi?

We help parents craft thoughtful, customized parenting plans that reflect their values, schedules, and most importantly—their child’s best interests. Whether you’re working collaboratively or facing a contested custody case, we can guide you every step of the way.

Contact us today to schedule a consultation and take the first step toward a stable, respectful co-parenting future.